The Energy Debt You Didn’t Know You Were Carrying

Let me say this gently, with love and a little side-eye: you’re not lazy, broken, or “bad at balance.” You’re just carrying energy debt — and nobody taught you how to check the balance.

We’re really good at tracking money... Well, some of us (lol). We notice when the money looking a little tight. But emotional, mental, and social energy? We just keep swiping the card and hoping it doesn’t decline.

Every time you say yes when your body wanted a no. Every time you push through exhaustion because “it’s not that bad." Every time you show up for everyone else without checking if you’re even okay to be there.

That’s energy debt.

And just like financial debt, it doesn’t feel dramatic at first. It feels manageable. Temporary. Something you’ll “fix later.” Until later shows up as burnout, irritability, brain fog, resentment, or that low-grade exhaustion that sleep doesn’t touch.

Here’s the sneaky part: energy debt isn’t always caused by hard things. Sometimes it’s the constant small drains.

The group chat that never ends...

The job that isn’t awful but also isn’t nourishing...

The social plans you keep because canceling feels harder than going...

The pressure to be “fine” when you’re anything but.

None of these alone break you. But stacked together? Whew - Jesus be a fence!

Refueling your energy doesn’t always mean bubble baths and time off (though yes, we love those). Sometimes it looks like boundaries. Or honesty. Or doing less, not more. Sometimes it’s choosing rest before you feel like you’ve “earned” it.

Quick check-in — and don’t overthink this:

• One thing this week that drains your energy
• One thing that genuinely refuels it

No judgment. No fixing. Just awareness. Because you can’t pay off a debt you won’t acknowledge.

And listen — you don’t need to wait until you’re emotionally overdrafted to take yourself seriously. Paying attention now is the difference between maintenance and meltdown.

If you’re craving a more personalized way to reset, my 1:1 wellness coaching is built exactly for this.

So tell me honestly… what part of your week leaves you emotionally bankrupt?